Even though as a whole society has become more accepting of homosexuality, its still surprisingly difficult for high quality, single men to find help and advice in their search for a life partner. Internalize the mantra: NO more missed opportunities! Everyone is looking to get off or to get in that we forget how to connect on intimate levels, much less genuine ones. Due to growing up in a homophobic society, most gay men as teenagers had to keep their sexualities hidden for fear of social backlash and further damage to their already shaky self-images.
Certainly, there are pros and cons to online dating, but with the right coaching and guidance, a person can have great success. A great way to avoid booze on a first date is to simply not be around. Very few gay men had the luxury of being able to openly date other gay males as teenagers and to live authentically.
so dont hesitate to ask your friends and family if they know someone who would be a good fit for you. And because as a community we really dont have a good blueprint for dating, weve had to borrow tips from our straight counterparts. People with exploitive personalities are more efficient at creating confidence and humor, but over time, it tends to decline once the observer realizes hes an asshole. The main point here is to be mindful of alcohol use.